How to Thrive at Work When You’re an Introvert

This is a guest post from Will Chou of willyoulaugh.com. Introvert. That’s what I am labeled as. And usually, it’s not a good thing. Most of the Western world seems to view this classification as a handicap towards success. It sucks when you’re too shy to network or...

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How to Answer “What Do You Do?”

You go to a party and, circling the snack table, you meet someone new. He asks how you know the host. Do you live in the neighborhood? If so, have you tried that new restaurant that opened up? Everything is going just peachy, but you know at some point, this guy is...

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How to Use the Anchoring Bias for Negotiating Salary

When it comes to negotiating salary, most of us need all the help we can get. I'm convinced that 90% of learning how to negotiate is just getting past the implosive mixture of feelings that keep you from asking in the first place: guilt, shame, inadequacy,...

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Why “Grow Thicker Skin” Is Bad Advice

Sensitivity isn't exactly embraced in our culture. It's considered weak, whiny, and vulnerable. It's much better to be impassive, indifferent, and thick-skinned. Here's another idea. "Grow thicker skin" is some of the most useless advice around on how to deal with...

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How to Become a Freelance Writer With No Experience

When I graduated college, I got a job as a technical writer. I signed an apartment lease, wrote "technical writer" as my occupation, and my friend Nolan looked at it and said: "Dude, you're a writer!" Um, I guess, I told him. Does that really count, though? ...

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How to Book a Private Stonehenge Tour

A few years back, I was lucky enough to visit a spot that's on many a bucket list: Stonehenge. Travel snobs will tell you it's overrated and there are better places to visit. Maybe I'm basic, but you have to be pretty spoiled not to appreciate the prehistoric splendor...

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Hey! I'm Kristin. a freelance writer and journalist (you can find my stuff at Lifehacker, NY mag, the NY Times, and more). Here, I share what I learn about how to freelance, from managing money to digital nomading to figuring out why the Wi-Fi isn't working. Want to learn more? Start here.

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  • Anna Weisend: I like your breakdown on different feedback for introverts and extroverts. I had never looked at it...
  • Steveark: I was a shy introvert, very interesting post, I did not realize the difference until now! However it was...
  • Done by Forty: You know what I really worry about? What I’m going to talk about when I leave traditional work....
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  • Durga: Anchoring is mostly subjected to the experienced people. In some cases for freshers too. To avoid this...

How to Thrive at Work When You’re an Introvert

This is a guest post from Will Chou of willyoulaugh.com.

Introvert.
That’s what I am labeled as. And usually, it’s not a good thing. Most of the Western world seems to view this classification as a handicap towards success.

It sucks when you’re too shy to network or even talk to anyone during a social event. It kills you afterward because you know it’s holding you back in your professional life, social life, and dating life. (That said, introversion and shyness are not the same thing, but we’ll get to that in a bit).

To deal with my own shyness and introversion, I picked up two popular books that offer advice to introverts and define introverted to begin with: Quiet: The Power of Introverts and Introversion Power. Both authors are well-known influencers in this space. In fact, the author of the first book, Susan Cain, gave a TED talk that was viewed over 22 million times online. Clearly, there’s a lot of interest.

I wanted to share with you some of the most powerful lessons I learned from these books and some tips I’ve learned from my own experiences.

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kristinwong

Hey! I'm Kristin. a freelance writer and journalist (you can find my stuff at Lifehacker, NY mag, the NY Times, and more). Here, I share what I learn about how to freelance, from managing money to digital nomading to figuring out why the Wi-Fi isn't working. Want to learn more? Start here.

What You're Saying

  • Anna Weisend: I like your breakdown on different feedback for introverts and extroverts. I had never looked at it...
  • Steveark: I was a shy introvert, very interesting post, I did not realize the difference until now! However it was...
  • Done by Forty: You know what I really worry about? What I’m going to talk about when I leave traditional work....
  • steveark: Before I early retired it was easy, I run an oil refinery. Nobody knew what that meant but they...
  • Durga: Anchoring is mostly subjected to the experienced people. In some cases for freshers too. To avoid this...

How to Thrive at Work When You’re an Introvert

This is a guest post from Will Chou of willyoulaugh.com. Introvert. That’s what I am labeled as. And usually, it’s not a good thing. Most of the Western world seems to view this classification as a handicap towards success. It sucks when you’re too shy to network or...

read more

How to Answer “What Do You Do?”

You go to a party and, circling the snack table, you meet someone new. He asks how you know the host. Do you live in the neighborhood? If so, have you tried that new restaurant that opened up? Everything is going just peachy, but you know at some point, this guy is...

read more

How to Use the Anchoring Bias for Negotiating Salary

When it comes to negotiating salary, most of us need all the help we can get. I'm convinced that 90% of learning how to negotiate is just getting past the implosive mixture of feelings that keep you from asking in the first place: guilt, shame, inadequacy,...

read more

Why “Grow Thicker Skin” Is Bad Advice

Sensitivity isn't exactly embraced in our culture. It's considered weak, whiny, and vulnerable. It's much better to be impassive, indifferent, and thick-skinned. Here's another idea. "Grow thicker skin" is some of the most useless advice around on how to deal with...

read more

How to Become a Freelance Writer With No Experience

When I graduated college, I got a job as a technical writer. I signed an apartment lease, wrote "technical writer" as my occupation, and my friend Nolan looked at it and said: "Dude, you're a writer!" Um, I guess, I told him. Does that really count, though? ...

read more

How to Book a Private Stonehenge Tour

A few years back, I was lucky enough to visit a spot that's on many a bucket list: Stonehenge. Travel snobs will tell you it's overrated and there are better places to visit. Maybe I'm basic, but you have to be pretty spoiled not to appreciate the prehistoric splendor...

read more